Saturday, February 28, 2009

1999 São Paulo

I found this photo, and wanted to share it...

I looked at it and I can feel just how happy I was in the moment, even more so now. It was taken 10 years ago on our first visit together to our favorite Posada in São Paulo. That evening, I remember, asking M if he had ever kissed a man in public (we were sitting in a very romantic little gay restaurant on a fashionable corner in the Jardims. Madonna's Evita was playing on a magnificent stereo/video). He said, "no". So I just did.... he started to cry, and I was so worried (especially as our means of communication were pretty funny, if not just plain precarious at the time). When he composed himself he told me that he was crying because he was so happy (estou chorando por causa de felicidade).

It was THAT little place, at a table, in the window, that we both knew that things were going to be different, for both of us. At the time we thought everything was impossible. But now, 10 years later we are together, he is here legally after a couple of h-1 visas and now a green card, finishing a doctorate... we are happily married, published a number of articles (our children as it were)... Someday I should write a tell-all book about all this.

It would be a great story, full of intrigue and impossibilities, some possible chapter themes in no particular order:

Fulbright Brasil
I have never done drag, but if I did, my drag name would be "Miss Communications"
ex's and parents
a study in consulates
how to take a shower in Brasil
I am not fat, I am charming
Are North American nephews more or less annoying than Brazilian ones? A case study
schools and universities - same yet different
true colleagues and so called friends vs real friends - the same goes for blood relations
a son, 2 dogs, 2 cars, a house in suburbs
feijoadas, parties, weddings
the house on German street
World Cup
China Beach, Memorial Auditorium, and Prop 8.
The mighty Fiat and Rapido Serrano
Campinas, Amparo, Ouro Preto...
Não existe pecado do lado de baixo do Equador...

I mean: seriously

From aatombomb

"The GOP has passed what amounts to a spending and tax-cutting and borrowing stimulus package every year since George W. Bush came to office. They have added tens of trillions to future liabilities and they turned a surplus into a trillion dollar deficit - all in a time of growth. They then pick the one moment when demand is collapsing in an alarming spiral to argue that fiscal conservatism is non-negotiable. I mean: seriously."
Andrew Sullivan

Holy hypocrisy Batman!

This gem from JMG:

Residents of 27 states that passed laws banning gay marriages boasted 11% more porn subscribers than states that don't explicitly restrict gay marriage. To get a better handle on other associations between social attitudes and pornography consumption, Edelman melded his data with a previous study on public attitudes toward religion. States where a majority of residents agreed with the statement "I have old-fashioned values about family and marriage," bought 3.6 more subscriptions per thousand people than states where a majority disagreed. A similar difference emerged for the statement "AIDS might be God's punishment for immoral sexual behaviour."

Obama Tells Powerful Lobbies: Bring It On

FOCUS Obama Tells Powerful Lobbies: Bring It On

Charles Babington, The Associated Press: "President Barack Obama challenged the nation's vested interests to a legislative duel Saturday, saying he will fight to change health care, energy and education in dramatic ways that will upset the status quo. 'The system we have now might work for the powerful and well-connected interests that have run Washington for far too long,' Obama said in his weekly radio and video address. 'But I don't. I work for the American people.'"

Kids' Letters to President Obama: Thanks and Have Fun Running the Country (Paperback)

Friday, February 27, 2009

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Stand up for Iran’s Baha’is

Stand up for Iran’s Baha’is
Voices from the arts call for the imprisoned Baha'i leaders in Iran to receive a fair trial

Forgetting they are human

Bear Market Graph

JMG states:
According to this graphic, the current recession is only slightly worse than the '73-'74 event, at least in terms of the value of the stock market. And the Wall Street Journal -owned site MarketWatch says the recession has already bottomed out and recovery is now being seen in 21 leading economic indicator categories.

Milton got his green card... Wooooo Hooooo!

... or at least got an email late at night saying he was going to be mailed a letter stating he was accepted. For those of you who do not know, if a gay man is married to a gay Brazilian, there is no help with automatic immigration status as in when a straight Korean colleague of mine went to Korea, got married, and his new wife got her green card immediately... so M & I have been at the mercy and good graces of the SJUSD (may the good lord bless and keep the district safe from budget cuts forever amen) for sponsoring his work visa for the last 10 years!

Needless to say it has been nerve racking, sometimes horrifying, exciting, and has been the reasons for all sorts of bells and whistles to go off, plans to be made for me to immigrate, and then when his school district offered to sponsor him for the green card, to bring me back from Brasil so that M could do his doctorate here.

All of this would never have happened if our very dear Eda hadn´t been so good to him down in the Dept of Ed at the very beginning of his work here 10 long years ago... so a big hug goes to her, our madrinha para sempre!

So life is good... I will post all the congrats here as they come in.

Wooooo Hooooo!

from Spencer: oh that's great!!! congratulations milton!!
from Daveo (via facebook): Dan :))) must be a great feeling.. so much work to get something so human.
from Prof. Rita J: green is so good!!!!!
from Prof R. Pomo: GREAT NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!! PARTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
From Assoc Dean Pia: Parabens! Great news!
From Kermit: GREAT ! ! !PARTY TIME, YEAH! ! ! !
From Prof L. Nowell: congratulations!
From Joe & Ruth: Ruth and I are both very pleased for the two of you. We're looking forward to the party.
From our fairy god mothers Brit and Mary: What a relief! How wonderful! Love to you both.
From Ms Vicki: Rock on my brotha!!!!!
From Prof. C. Olson: Dan and Milton: Congratulations to both of you!!!!
From Bill G: Awesome! Did Milton get his acceptance for his green card as your legally recognized husband? (ans. Dude! no, due to the bigo-repub-fundie-religious backwardness of this country gay marriage in is not recognized as a federal right... yet)
From Prof Bob P: Congrats to Milton!
Jose & Loring: Hugs to you both!
From our neighbors Kelley and Majid: Hurray and Loud Cheers for Milton !!!
From Ms Jeri C: WooHoo. I just can't imagine what a relief this is for you both. I am so H A P P Y."
Prof. M Coughlin says: HAPPY NEWS!
Jeri says: Did you hear the big sigh of relief all the way from Arizona???? KISS KISS KISS.
Prof F Lilly says: Congratulations!!!
Curt P. in Guatemala says: Congrats for the greencard thing. I hear that's a long haul these days to get one.
Keith or neighbor says: Tell him a big CONGRATS! That'll stop a big worry ... So he is now the same as me ... A permanent alien!

From our Gay Dads Steve & Nelson: THANK GOD !! That is so great, not only for Milton and you - but for all of your friends (and relatives!!) and of course the students Milton works with everyday. So great.

Mona says: "Congrats to Milton! That's terrific."

Prof. Ed A. says: Congrats, you two!!!!!

From Prof Clo M: I'd say that is Biiiiiiiiiiiiig!Congratulations to Milton.Good excuse for a party.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Officials: Obama to announce Iraq withdrawal

Officials: Obama to announce Iraq withdrawal

Administration officials say President Barack Obama is planning to announce that most U.S. troops will be out of Iraq in less than 19 months.

March Forth on March 4th!

On March 5th, the California Supreme Court will hear oral argument on whyProposition 8 should be repealed.
On the evening before the California Supreme Court holds oral argument on the validity of Proposition 8 and whether the initiative process can be used to take away fundamental freedoms from minorities, join us for a candlelight vigil for justice and equality.
City locations: (check back for updates - not lisited? Organize your own - email your local chapter leader)March 4th Vigil Locations and Times:
San Francisco - Gather at Market and Castro from 5-6pm for pre-march rally, step off at 6pm, arrive at CA Supreme Court (Civic Center) at 6:30pm for short program. [map]
Los Angeles - Gather at Olvera Street in Downtown from 5:30-7:30pm for vigil program, ending with a walk to CA Supreme Court (Ronald Reagan Building 300 South Spring Street
Los Angeles, CA 90013) at 8:00pm for moment of silence. [map]
Modesto - 7:00 p.m. at 1010 10th Street in Downtown Modesto. Walk to the CourtHouse. Walk kicks off at 7:15ish. Rally at the Courthouse at 7:30 p.m.[map]
San Diego - San Diego will have a community rally with speakers and singing converging on the Hall of Justice at 330 W Broadway, San Diego CA 92101 from 4-6pm . A candle light vigil will then line the streets of Downtown San Diego Starting at 6pm! . [map]
Stockton - 6:00pm for a vigil program and moment of silence at 7:30pm. Meet at First Unitarian Universalist Church, 2737 Pacific Ave Stockton, CA 95204 (209) 466-7743 [map]
Fresno - Gather outside the Fresno County Clerk's Office at 2221 Kern Street, Fresno, CA 93721 at 6pm for a vigil program, recommitment ceremony, speakers and moment of silence.[map]
Visalia - Gather at 221 S Mooney Blvd, Visalia CA (Courthouse lawn) from 5:30-7:30pm for a vigil program, recommitment ceremony, speakers and moment of silence.[map]
Bakersfield - Gathering in two locations. In Delano, gat! her at the south end of Cecil Avenue Park on Cecil Avenue from 4-6pm and in Kernville, gather at Circle Park at 5pm.
Roseville- Gather at the Roseville Galleria Mall, 1151 Galleria Blvd from 6-7:30pm for a peaceful candlelight vigil. Meet outside the mall entrance between the Cheesecake Factory (next to the JC Penny) and the Nordstroms.[map]
San Luis Obispo - Gather at the San Luis Obispo Downtown Center at 888 Marsh Street at 5:30pm for a vigil program, recommitment ceremony, speakers and moment of silence.[map]
San Jose - Gather at the intersection of Winchesterr Boulevard and Stevens Creek Boulevard, at Santanna Row and Valley Fair shopping centers from 6:30 to 8:30pm for a short progam.[map]
Sacramento - Gather at the! West Steps of the Capital from 5-6pm for pre-march rally. Step off at 6pm. Arrive at California Supreme Court (914 Capital Mall) at 6:30pm for a short progam. [map]

For more information and additional vigil locations go to or

To add additional organizations as co-sponsors email

Monday, February 23, 2009

iPod Game

I played this game with my iPod, where I put it on shuffle and look at the 31 songs that come up randomly and use their names to answer these 31 questions. Sometimes you get interesting hits:


Put Your iTunes, Windows Media Player, MP3 Player, or whatever on Shuffle.
For each question, press the next button to get your answer.
You must write down the name of the song no matter how silly it sounds!
Put any comments in brackets after the song name.

• Song you wake up to? "Good Times Bad Times” – Led Zepplilin [pretty good, though a bit loud for the morning]
• If someone says, "Is this okay?" you say “Madame Butterfly – Act II” [zzzzzzzzzz]
• How would you describe yourself? “Hey Jude” the Beatles [I do?]
• What do you like in a guy/girl? "Japan Pop Show” – Curumin {play it loud, or backwards to gethe secret message]
• How do you feel today? “The Hornpipe” - MJQ {I do actually]
• What's your life's purpose? “Like it or Not” – Charles Mingus [pretty good]
• What is your motto? “Everybody Knows” – Leonard Cohen [hmmm… what do they know that I don’t know?]
• What do your friends think of you “Russ Job” – Chet Baker Quartet [did he mean... Rush Job?]
• What do you think of your parents? “Manteca”: - Dizzie Gillespie [Lard? I think of lard?]
• What do you think of very often “Bibanke ” - Asa [yeah lotsa bibanke, bibanke all the time]
• What is 2 + 2? " “Miles from Nowhere” – Cat Stevens [what can I say?]
• What do you think of your best friend? "For a Dancer” – Jackson Browne [good]
• What do you think of the person you like? "Staten Island Goove” Down to the Bone [play it loud]
• What do you want to be when you grow up? "Camions Sauvages” Amadou & Miriam [oui!]
• What do you think of when you see the person you like? "Nutcracker Suite – Pas de Deux »[well not exactly… ]
• What will you dance to at your wedding? "Sake Boon” – Vinny [perfect]
· What will they play at your funeral? “Concerto F-Dur” - Heinichen [hmmm nice, but I think there are better, hopefully I don’t have to think about it right now]
• What is your hobby/interest? “Sweetest Taboo” –Sade [eek! Though gardening comes in a close second]
• What is your biggest fear? “Fumanchu” Vinny [also spot on, weird how Brazilian rocker/rapper Vinney is so central today]
• What do you think of your friends? “Finest Worksong” – REM [maybe at the funeral too]
• What do you think of the world “I love being here” – Dianna Krall [very good!, its true!]
• What do you think of religion? Tabara” (Ali Farka Touré [its French/ Malian… not sure what he’s singing about, but it must be good!]
• What do you think of school “Miami Beach Rumba” – Xaivier Cugat [Xaiver speaks / plays the truth]
• How was your year so far? “Minha Dalva de Olviera “ Celso Fonseca [I’ll have to ask Milton who Dalva is]
• Perfect way of spending your weekend? “Call of the Birds” – Hossein Aliszadeh [sure, in the garden, or riding my bike]
• What is the one thing you want to do once in your life? “No More Drama” Mary K Blige [please!]
• Most important thing you need to do before you die? " “Gloria Quaniam Solus Sanctus” – Vivaldi [play it loud!]
• What do you think of Facebook? "Waltz for Baltimore” – Bill Frisell [more like a needles addiction for Baltimore, where I have never been btw]
• How do you want to live your final years? "The tide is high” – Blondie [ok, good!]
• What do you think of surveys like this “Goin Wild for you Baby” – Bonnie Raitt [what?]
• What will you post this as? “Esperança” – Curumin [hope)!]

Sunday, under the solartube in the living room on the Ponderosa

Armistead Maupin

from JMG

"To us old-timers the argument for Proposition 8 was a blast from the past, a throwback to the evil theocratic Save-the-Children bullshit that Anita Bryant was spewing over thirty years ago. Why, then, was our response so maddeningly weak-kneed and closeted? Why didn't you see images of gay people in any of our ads -- or even the word 'gay,' for that matter? Are we that ashamed of ourselves? The answer is no, thankfully; most of us aren't."

And a growing number of young people have lost patience with the black-tie silent-auction-A-gay complacency of the organizations that claim to be fighting for our rights but don't want to ruffle feathers. These new kids are friending each other on Facebook (whatever that means) and taking to the streets on their own. My husband and I met a few of them when we picketed the Mormon temple in Oakland last month. They have love in their eyes and fire in their bellies and a commitment to finish this fight once and for all." - Armistead Maupin, writing in the foreword to Milk: A Pictorial History Of Harvey Milk.

There is compromise on this issue, but this isn't it

Dustin Lance Black, accepting an Academy Award for Best Original Screenplay, February 22

"When I was 13 years old, my beautiful mother and my father moved me from a conservative Mormon home in San Antonio, Texas to California and I heard the story of Harvey Milk. And it gave me hope. It gave me the hope to live my life, it gave me the hope to one day live my life openly as who I am and that maybe even I could fall in love and one day get married." -- Dustin Lance Black, accepting an Academy Award for Best Original Screenplay, February 22

Congress: "Cut wasteful spending on Pentagon programs which don't contribute to our security"

Sunday, February 22, 2009



The GOP has passed what amounts to a spending and tax-cutting and borrowing stimulus package every year since George W. Bush came to office. They have added tens of trillions to future liabilities and they turned a surplus into a trillion dollar deficit - all in a time of growth. They then pick the one moment when demand is collapsing in an alarming spiral to argue that fiscal conservatism is non-negotiable. I mean: seriously.

Crocker Art Museum

This afternoon, I went down to the Crocker Art Museum to see the exhibit of Buddhas from all over the world. I saw two, took a picture of this wonderful Maitreya Buddha (was asked to not take pictures) and the fire alarm went off, and everyone was told to evacuate... there was smoke coming out ofthe eves on the front section...
Maitreya Budda
TV dude

Support a Strong National Renewable Electricity Standard

If we had a strong national standard for renewable electricity, we could reduce global warming pollution, create jobs and save consumers money by requiring utilities to generate an increasing percentage of electricity from clean, renewable energy sources – like solar, wind, geothermal and biomass.
Recently introduced in the House of Representatives, the Renewable Electricity Standard (RES) bill (H.R. 890) will require utilities to generate or buy 25 percent clean, renewable energy by 2025. It is one of the most effective ways we can address both global warming and our nation's economic crisis.
To read more and to take action click here.

Newsweek's Alter on Obama: He's Got the Poise and Timing to Drive America Forward

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